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Post by JDMaleSwiftie on Jan 7, 2018 16:27:04 GMT -5
Everyone has their own preferences. I personally wouldn’t date someone who doesn’t like pets or wouldn’t want me to have any. As for the kids I’d prefer they don’t, but wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me. I actually think kids are one of the only deal breakers for me. Not because I dislike kids, but just because at this point in my life I'm not willing or really capable of taking on any kind of responsibility for a child. I totally understand that because I kind of feel the same way. At the same time I’m gonna be 24 later this year. A lot of girls I know my age already have kids. We talk about adjusting your expectations, preferences, standards, etc. and to me that may be one I have to adjust or be more willing to date someone with a kid because there’s probably a good chance a girl I try to date will have a kid. |
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Post by taytaytay on Jan 7, 2018 16:31:41 GMT -5
I actually think kids are one of the only deal breakers for me. Not because I dislike kids, but just because at this point in my life I'm not willing or really capable of taking on any kind of responsibility for a child. I totally understand that because I kind of feel the same way. At the same time I’m gonna be 24 later this year. A lot of girls I know my age already have kids. We talk about adjusting your expectations, preferences, standards, etc. and to me that may be one I have to adjust or be more willing to date someone with a kid because there’s probably a good chance a girl I try to date will have a kid. That's fair enough. I think it's something I could maybe handle in the future but just right now I'm only 21 and I'm just too young to handle a child. If people can do it I have tonnes of respect for them (one of my good friends is a single mother of two and she's still only 20 but she's one of the best mothers I've ever seen) but it's just not for me, at least not yet. |
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Post by JDMaleSwiftie on Jan 7, 2018 16:43:50 GMT -5
Ugh just talking about and thinking of being a potential father makes me feel old.
It’s depressing that in 20 months I’ll be in my mid 20’s.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 7, 2018 20:40:10 GMT -5
Yeah I didn't bring that up but I would sincerely LOVE to have kids and pets both  XD |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2018 0:27:54 GMT -5
Oh, he must be okay with us having our first dance to You Are In Love. |
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Post by FearlesslySpeakNow on Jan 13, 2018 0:50:49 GMT -5
- sweet - caring - smart - easy on the eyes - wears earrings - no smoking - no drugs - no pets
- no body piercings - no tattoos - longer hair - outgoing personality - no hate towards things I love - taylor swift obsess with me N-No p-pets? |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 13, 2018 0:58:19 GMT -5
Rowan and Roman have nearly identical lists lol
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Post by FearlesslySpeakNow on Jan 13, 2018 2:14:18 GMT -5
Rowan and Roman have nearly identical lists lol I'm not entirely convinced they're not the same person.....just flip the middle letter of their name upside down.....#ConspiracyTheory Looks like it's time for investigation.  |
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Post by Roman on Jan 13, 2018 10:21:41 GMT -5
I don’t agree with that because I don’t see it as settling. I look it as adjusting your expectations. What if you are not happy when you adjust your expectations? Obviously, if you have ridiculously high standards you'll be severely limiting your dating pool but if someone is okay with that then they shouldn't lower their expectations. I agree with you. It's dangerous to adjust your expectations/preferences. When you like someone it's way too easy to tolerate the other person's "bad" things. Many people think they will be able to change their partner, but that hardly ever happens. And like you said: if you change the things that are important to you, you will be unhappy. |
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Post by Roman on Jan 13, 2018 10:25:39 GMT -5
I'm not entirely convinced they're not the same person.....just flip the middle letter of their name upside down.....#ConspiracyTheory Looks like it's time for investigation. Okay, okay, you guys got me. Rowan is my evil alter ego! |
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Post by Roman on Jan 13, 2018 10:28:32 GMT -5
Oh, he must be okay with us having our first dance to You Are In Love.  What is happening? You read my mind. I love that song so so so so so much! I'm highly attracted to you after saying this! |
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Post by rowanlovestaylor on Jan 13, 2018 11:28:40 GMT -5
Okay, okay, you guys got me. Rowan is my evil alter ego! That sounds like something the evil one would say to get the focus off himself..... I would like to have no pets. |
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Post by Roman on Jan 13, 2018 11:38:37 GMT -5
That sounds like something the evil one would say to get the focus off himself..... I would like to have no pets. That’s totally fine. And it’s totally fine that you copied my list and altered it for you. It actually means you’re just as *cough* amazing *cough* as I! |
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Post by thiefinrippedupjeans on Jan 15, 2018 14:49:41 GMT -5
- Deep
- Honest
- Self-aware
- NOT needy
- Trustworthy
- Won't try to change me
- Won't talk negatively about me to his friends
- Understands my dedication to my art
- Will surprise me all the time
- Will take me out to restaurants, dance clubs, etc. (doesn't have to be expensive at all!)
- Will let me be independent & have my alone time
- Appreciates nature just as much as I do
- Doesn't smoke cigarettes
Preferably with good hair (but that can be overlooked! haha)
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Post by thiefinrippedupjeans on Jan 15, 2018 14:55:46 GMT -5
In response to the whole "Lower your expectations" thing. I think you need balance, as with everything. I'd say don't have expectations at all, or you WILL be disappointed. There are preferences we all have that could be put aside, i.e appearances, professions, interests. But I've seen some people take the no expectations thing a bit too far and end up with toxic people because they feel like wanting somebody who'll treat them kindly or doesn't have any dangerous habits is an "unrealistic" expectation. So that's just a note out to people so hopefully they don't fall into that trap which I've seen people close to me fall into. I know that's not what the video was aiming at, but it's something I think people need to hear. Don't be so eager to experience love that you'll just go for anybody.
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What is happening? You read my mind. I love that song so so so so so much! I'm highly attracted to you after saying this! 
