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Post by oliviabenson(Taylor's Version) on Feb 20, 2023 15:20:36 GMT -5
I already told them in the past, but then I get to hear that, even if I'm not a child anymore, they have to (I don't know what the right english word is) train or educate me like a child, because I would still behave like one. Work, no matter what kind is hard to find here and especially if you are someone who isn't reliable because of the health. And because of my social phobia, there is the next problem. Sad to hear you’re not doing well  At some point living at home when you’re grown up will collide with parents/family. Even without major issues you’ll get on each other’s nerves. I can imagine it’s daunting to take steps to improve your situation. But you really have to. Probably start with your physical and mental health. Physically you really need to go for those extensive examinations. I know it’s unpleasant and scary, but giving your health problems you need to do what’s necessary. Besides, an endoscopy and gastrointestinal examination are not that terrible. Especially an endoscopy is done frequently without risk. As for your mental health. You could use someone on your side helping you. At least a coach, preferably a therapist. That will also help you to be stronger facing family and health problems. Try baby steps. You can’t fix your life quickly. It’s already a win if you schedule an appointment. For every small step you take, you can be proud of yourself. We’re here to cheer you on along the way. Chantel will break out her pompons! I'm already taking those baby steps since a few years to be more independent. Until a few years ago I couldn't do the easiest daily things that everyone does without thinking about it. Now I can at least do a little bit on my own. Wait, Chantel will be my cheerleader?  |
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Post by SydneyPaige on Feb 20, 2023 15:55:35 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear you're not doing the best right now. I understand how difficult it can be dealing with family drama, especially when mental/physical health is a roadblock. Please know that my inbox is always open if you ever feel the need to vent or to talk.
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Post by sharonlovestaylor on Feb 21, 2023 20:59:39 GMT -5
I am feeling happy!
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Post by ohiotaylorswiftfan on Feb 22, 2023 0:32:57 GMT -5
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Post by ohiotaylorswiftfan on Feb 22, 2023 1:03:36 GMT -5
No Daniel please please don't harm yourself in any way! I understand how you feel! But killing yourself would be a permanent solution to a temporary Problem and if you did lots of people including myself would hurt. I cried reading this post. You can always talk to me about anything! Please talk to me! Private message me! Oh I hope your ok and haven't done anything! The problem is that it's not a temporary problem, it's like this since I can think. Back when I was a kid my grandpa often hit me very hard, sometimes it hurt to sit for a few days after he does it, once my lip was bleeding. Back when I was a kid, I was never really allowed to have fun and feel great, always when I got a little bit louder because I was happy about anything or playing, then I was shouted at that I should be silent, or as a kid I had a water rifle, once I shortly shot a little bit of water at the back of my grandpa, he turned around, took the thing and broke it into two pieces, another time I was playing with one of my Playmobil fire trucks with a winch on it's front, I hooked it to something in the room, he got mad at me about something I can't remember and instead of just unclipping the winch, he took a tool and cut it off. I guess that's why the person I became locked away the little child, that I still am, in a cage inside me and threw away the keys. And the thing with my health is that no one knows what I have and no doctor wants to help me. We made so many medical tests at medical laboratories at our own costs, because the doctors won't make them for me, in most tests there are many results that aren't okay, but if I or we show it to doctors, they say that they don't do anything, because they are stool samples or are made at a laboratory they don't know, when I or we say that they can make the same test again and in a laboratory they work with, they say that they don't do that. They only want me to make a gastroscopy and a endoscopy, and that's the only two things I won't do, because it has to be true horror and I saw what it has done to my grandma. But if I don't do that they won't do anything and just say that I only simulate the symptoms and it isn't possible that my body isn't tolerating anything. And that's how it is since 2017. So I'm completely on my own there. That's the (how they say here) great german health system with the best doctors in the world. I am very sorry to learn about what you are going through. I know that family members can be difficult to get along with. I have had gastrointestinal problems for many years. I have had an endoscopy and a colonoscopy more than once. These procedures aren't that difficult to have. Before the physician begins they give the patient a mild sedative so that you relax and before you know it they are finished. So please follow the doctors recommendations and take care of your health. |
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Post by SydneyPaige on Feb 22, 2023 1:21:24 GMT -5
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Post by oliviabenson(Taylor's Version) on Feb 22, 2023 2:09:06 GMT -5
The problem is that it's not a temporary problem, it's like this since I can think. Back when I was a kid my grandpa often hit me very hard, sometimes it hurt to sit for a few days after he does it, once my lip was bleeding. Back when I was a kid, I was never really allowed to have fun and feel great, always when I got a little bit louder because I was happy about anything or playing, then I was shouted at that I should be silent, or as a kid I had a water rifle, once I shortly shot a little bit of water at the back of my grandpa, he turned around, took the thing and broke it into two pieces, another time I was playing with one of my Playmobil fire trucks with a winch on it's front, I hooked it to something in the room, he got mad at me about something I can't remember and instead of just unclipping the winch, he took a tool and cut it off. I guess that's why the person I became locked away the little child, that I still am, in a cage inside me and threw away the keys. And the thing with my health is that no one knows what I have and no doctor wants to help me. We made so many medical tests at medical laboratories at our own costs, because the doctors won't make them for me, in most tests there are many results that aren't okay, but if I or we show it to doctors, they say that they don't do anything, because they are stool samples or are made at a laboratory they don't know, when I or we say that they can make the same test again and in a laboratory they work with, they say that they don't do that. They only want me to make a gastroscopy and a endoscopy, and that's the only two things I won't do, because it has to be true horror and I saw what it has done to my grandma. But if I don't do that they won't do anything and just say that I only simulate the symptoms and it isn't possible that my body isn't tolerating anything. And that's how it is since 2017. So I'm completely on my own there. That's the (how they say here) great german health system with the best doctors in the world. I am very sorry to learn about what you are going through. I know that family members can be difficult to get along with. I have had gastrointestinal problems for many years. I have had an endoscopy and a colonoscopy more than once. These procedures aren't that difficult to have. Before the physician begins they give the patient a mild sedative so that you relax and before you know it they are finished. So please follow the doctors recommendations and take care of your health. That sedative is one of the problems, I don't tolerate them and I'm out for at least one week with extreme dizzyness, illness, puking, shaking, no strength. That's a problem for many things in my life the last years, I even get those problems in a very mild version just from vitamin pills. |
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Post by ohiotaylorswiftfan on Feb 22, 2023 2:21:53 GMT -5
I am very sorry to learn about what you are going through. I know that family members can be difficult to get along with. I have had gastrointestinal problems for many years. I have had an endoscopy and a colonoscopy more than once. These procedures aren't that difficult to have. Before the physician begins they give the patient a mild sedative so that you relax and before you know it they are finished. So please follow the doctors recommendations and take care of your health. That sedative is one of the problems, I don't tolerate them and I'm out for at least one week with extreme dizzyness, illness, puking, shaking, no strength. That's a problem for many things in my life the last years, I even get those problems in a very mild version just from vitamin pills. I know that in the USA they have been doing the procedure an alternative way. They have the patient swallow a capsule and while it travels through the digestive system a small camera takes pictures of the digestive system and that avoids anything invasive being done. I don't think any sedative is needed for that. But I have never had it done with that method. Maybe you could ask the doctor about that. |
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Post by oliviabenson(Taylor's Version) on Feb 22, 2023 2:32:55 GMT -5
That sedative is one of the problems, I don't tolerate them and I'm out for at least one week with extreme dizzyness, illness, puking, shaking, no strength. That's a problem for many things in my life the last years, I even get those problems in a very mild version just from vitamin pills. I know that in the USA they have been doing the procedure an alternative way. They have the patient swallow a capsule and while it travels through the digestive system a small camera takes pictures of the digestive system and that avoids anything invasive being done. I don't think any sedative is needed for that. But I have never had it done with that method. Maybe you could ask the doctor about that. Yeah, that's also available here, we looked into that a few years ago, but it's too expensive for us and most doctors don't do it or don't want to do it. And no insurance is paying it at least partly. |
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Post by TimeOfMyLife on Feb 22, 2023 7:21:41 GMT -5
oliviabenson(Taylor's Version), maybe it's an option to take a bit more distance from your family if they are toxic). I mean, maybe an own appartment, a bit away from them (distance) will give you more air to breath.
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Post by chantel on Feb 22, 2023 7:45:06 GMT -5
The problem is that it's not a temporary problem, it's like this since I can think. Back when I was a kid my grandpa often hit me very hard, sometimes it hurt to sit for a few days after he does it, once my lip was bleeding. Back when I was a kid, I was never really allowed to have fun and feel great, always when I got a little bit louder because I was happy about anything or playing, then I was shouted at that I should be silent, or as a kid I had a water rifle, once I shortly shot a little bit of water at the back of my grandpa, he turned around, took the thing and broke it into two pieces, another time I was playing with one of my Playmobil fire trucks with a winch on it's front, I hooked it to something in the room, he got mad at me about something I can't remember and instead of just unclipping the winch, he took a tool and cut it off. I guess that's why the person I became locked away the little child, that I still am, in a cage inside me and threw away the keys. And the thing with my health is that no one knows what I have and no doctor wants to help me. We made so many medical tests at medical laboratories at our own costs, because the doctors won't make them for me, in most tests there are many results that aren't okay, but if I or we show it to doctors, they say that they don't do anything, because they are stool samples or are made at a laboratory they don't know, when I or we say that they can make the same test again and in a laboratory they work with, they say that they don't do that. They only want me to make a gastroscopy and a endoscopy, and that's the only two things I won't do, because it has to be true horror and I saw what it has done to my grandma. But if I don't do that they won't do anything and just say that I only simulate the symptoms and it isn't possible that my body isn't tolerating anything. And that's how it is since 2017. So I'm completely on my own there. That's the (how they say here) great german health system with the best doctors in the world. I am very sorry to learn about what you are going through. I know that family members can be difficult to get along with. I have had gastrointestinal problems for many years. I have had an endoscopy and a colonoscopy more than once. These procedures aren't that difficult to have. Before the physician begins they give the patient a mild sedative so that you relax and before you know it they are finished. So please follow the doctors recommendations and take care of your health. No procedures should be minimized. My dad had a life altering stroke during his colonoscopy even though colonoscopy are supposed to be easy and safe. Daniel I don't know how severe your symptoms are but you really have to weigh the cons and pros of each procedure that you do. Doctors would give you a million procedures if they could to make money. Make sure you get multiple opinions if you go ahead with any of them. |
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Post by ohiotaylorswiftfan on Feb 22, 2023 10:16:15 GMT -5
I am very sorry to learn about what you are going through. I know that family members can be difficult to get along with. I have had gastrointestinal problems for many years. I have had an endoscopy and a colonoscopy more than once. These procedures aren't that difficult to have. Before the physician begins they give the patient a mild sedative so that you relax and before you know it they are finished. So please follow the doctors recommendations and take care of your health. No procedures should be minimized. My dad had a life altering stroke during his colonoscopy even though colonoscopy are supposed to be easy and safe. Daniel I don't know how severe your symptoms are but you really have to weigh the cons and pros of each procedure that you do. Doctors would give you a million procedures if they could to make money. Make sure you get multiple opinions if you go ahead with any of them. I think it is unfair the way you are characterizing doctors. The ones that I have had the pleasure of knowing and being a patient of are highly educated and dedicated professionals who save people's lives on a daily basis. While there are some people in every profession who are unethical I refuse to believe that most physicians are ordering and performing tests and procedures just to increase their personal wealth. Please don't stereotype the medical profession. |
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Post by chantel on Feb 22, 2023 10:25:31 GMT -5
No procedures should be minimized. My dad had a life altering stroke during his colonoscopy even though colonoscopy are supposed to be easy and safe. Daniel I don't know how severe your symptoms are but you really have to weigh the cons and pros of each procedure that you do. Doctors would give you a million procedures if they could to make money. Make sure you get multiple opinions if you go ahead with any of them. I think it is unfair the way you are characterizing doctors. The ones that I have had the pleasure of knowing and being a patient of are highly educated and dedicated professionals who save people's lives on a daily basis. While there are some people in every profession who are unethical I refuse to believe that most physicians are ordering and performing tests and procedures just to increase their personal wealth. Please don't stereotype the medical profession. Please don't tell me what to do. Obviously there are both good and bad doctors. Doctors are human and humans prioritize what benefits themselves. You don't know which doctor is good or bad at first which is why I told Daniel to get multiple opinions to make sure they all say the same thing. |
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Post by oliviabenson(Taylor's Version) on Feb 22, 2023 10:37:46 GMT -5
I think it is unfair the way you are characterizing doctors. The ones that I have had the pleasure of knowing and being a patient of are highly educated and dedicated professionals who save people's lives on a daily basis. While there are some people in every profession who are unethical I refuse to believe that most physicians are ordering and performing tests and procedures just to increase their personal wealth. Please don't stereotype the medical profession. Please don't tell me what to do. Obviously there are both good and bad doctors. Doctors are human and humans prioritize what benefits themselves. You don't know which doctor is good or bad at first which is why I told Daniel to get multiple opinions to make sure they all say the same thing. We have mostly two types of doctors here, the ones who want to make money and the ones who wants to go the easy way with standard procedures and if they don't know what it is or what to do, then they send you to a psychiatrist. The really good ones are very rare. And very bad in Germany is that most doctors are limited by the insurances, because they say what they are allowed to do and what not.
My grandma wasn't able to control when (I just say it by the name, sorry for that), the poo came out, after they looked into her. And that's something I'm a bit too young for I guess.
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