Spam Your Feelings

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I can understand it gets discouraging, Callie, and that there can be a case made for not getting your hopes up too many times to get dashed... but there's always the other side... if you enter enough of them, sooner or later, the odds will have to favor you and you'll win one.  just make sure the ones you enter are worthwhile, and the prize will be worth all the entries

well Callie, you HAVE won some, and sooner or later, you will win something you really like. Most might think that dino thing was lame, but honestly, it sounds like it might have been interesting. And a girl with a hundred pairs of shoes? you can't tell me you didn't appreciate the gift card to the shopping mall. You'll win something really big some day... the law of averages says so, if you won't take my word for it:) and you may not think so but by letting someone else get that backpack instead, you might have made THEIR day... especially considering how expensive school supplies can get these days. And this might have been the first time THEY won something, which they wouldn't have had without your having passed on it originally.

I understand the frustration with not being in a relationship right now, but seriously you guys are 19 and 20 years old. You’ve got your entire lives ahead of you. You have plenty of time to find someone or them to find you. The best thing you can do is make that secondary and focus on other things and the rest will take care of itself.

I don’t think you can give up hope at 19 years old that you won’t ever fall in love and meet someone. I’m 23 years old and I haven’t given up hope. I know that process will take place and I’ll find that girl for me. I don’t know when or who it’ll be, but I know I’m still young and too young still to lose hope. It happens for everyone at different points in their lives.

Some people don’t find that special someone for years. Others are fortunate to find it sooner. You just have to realize that while life is full of ups and downs everyone deserves happiness and everyone’s time will come. You try not to focus or think about it too much. Don’t let it consume you because that’s not healthy. There are other things to focus your attention on. That would be my advice to you both. You’re still very young and there is no reason to think you’ll be alone forever.

I understand being arkward socially and struggling to fit in and meet people. Get all that. I used to be the same way. The inability to really meet and make friends. The inability especially to talk to girls was very frustrating, but as time has gone I’ve figured out how to do it better and now I’m somewhat competent at it. You just try and be yourself. You try and have normal conversations. Find something you have in common with said person. Talk about what you like to do. Music interests and movies or TV shows. If you’re in school which I’m not currently that is something you can talk about as well or if you have a job. It’s not easy, but isn’t impossible either.

Honestly I used to consume my self so much with finding or meeting a girl. It really made me depressed because I tried too hard and that’s just not the way to go about it. You can literally meet someone anywhere. A restaurant, the movie theatre, at a store, concert, school, job, etc. I mean this is a massive world obviously and I just came to realize I can’t force myself to meet someone or will it. You just have to take a step back, live your life, and eventually it’ll happen anyway. There is way too many people in this world and we’re all way too young to not eventually meet someone. You just can’t lose faith or hope. I mean it’s not easy, but if you tell yourself you won’t ever meet someone you probably won’t because a lot of life is just having the right approach and mentality. You have to believe in yourself and have confidence.

You look at someone like Taylor and even though she’s obviously not married at age 27 and had her fair share of failed relationships she still obviously is living a very productive life. Yeah she’s gotten her heart broken, but she’s found a way to not let it break her, to let it strengthen her, she’s worked so hard over the years to not have success, but continue to improve and progress in her career and she has realized that eventually she will be happy and in love with a great guy that she deserves very much. At the same time that doesn’t happen over night, but over a long process.

I mean that’s really what life is at the end of the day. It’s a long, drown out process. There are a multitude of steps you have to take, you have to be determined, but also have to approach them the right way and not allow yourself to get deterred or get too down on yourself when you have struggles because they happen to everyone. Don’t allow yourself to get defeated. Learn from your experiences. Stay strong. All that you want is out there for you and it’ll happen for yourself eventually as it will for me if we just stay the course.